Is Narcissism Bad ?

Is narcissism bad ? And that too in a world which has already grown out of empathy. You might come across phases when you will envy people around you for they might have a circle that is three times of yours. And above that, how much you will try to make them understand that you are too content, they will keep flaunting their jolly vivacious life. And that somehow causes you to examine your own life atleast once. The fact that it won’t seem much ebullient like them will for no good reason sadden you. I believe sadness either makes you frustrated or you become just more sad.

You will become sad and more sad. You will become sad to an extent that all the positive energy of your rational and sound brain will drain and it will leave you looking for reasons of why are you not being loved like them and all the random senseless shit will wade through your head. So, though you may had made yourself an ocean sometime back ,but what’s its use if only extraneous thoughts are buoyant and all your potential is gradually sinking. So, does that mean that your worth has decremented ? Well, according to me, no. To have doubts is okay. What is really appreciable is if you are potent to build an empire through all that confusion. And that’s where your kingdom come.

Its okay if you feel like you are not being loved cause that’s the exact feeling that makes you aware of the fact that you need to love yourself.

You will confront days when you won’t want to talk to anyone. Nothing will please you. The worldly attractions won’t distract you. The bludgeoning of bizarre circumstances will drive you mad. You will be able to empathize with people but you just won’t be able to love them. A good number of times will you act selfish. You can easily make connection but won’t realize the need or won’t see any point in shaping it. Everything will just sort of fade away. Now this is the time when instead of looking for people to come and pamper you, understand you ,not understand ,,rather listen you, you should be able to show some sympathy to your anxious soul and heal it in your own ways. And people solve none of your issues , they just look it as a mere chance to outsmart themselves by giving you advice that is actually of no use to you.

In my perception, instead of keeping all the outside drama in your life, you need to learn to enjoy your solitude. You need to be completely in love with yourself though it’s quite hard. You need to love your tantrums , all your fears , your choices. You need to believe that you look cute. You need to have faith on hard work. You should go for what satisfies inner you without any doubt. It’s you who have an infinite miraculous power of achieving whatsoever you believe you are capable of.

As these lines from ‘Desiderata’ completely justifies it

Max Ehrmann


Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.


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